Phase 6 · 9 min

Meeting her parents

Back to keigo, and the phrases that matter

With her parents you switch back to polite Japanese, fully. Bring a gift (お土産, something from your country or a nice sweet), bow, and let them lead. Use her name + さん in front of them, not the nickname.

hajimemashite. iburaru to moushimasu. itsumo sakiko san ni osewa ni natte orimasu

Nice to meet you. I'm Ibrar. Sakiko always takes good care of me.

The set opener. お世話になっております = the same phrase as the business email opener.

kore, tsumaranai mono desu ga, douzo

This is just a small thing, but please accept it.

Traditional gift line. Modern alternative: 心ばかりですが (a small token).

ojama shimasu

Excuse me for intruding. (entering their home)

Leaving: お邪魔しました.

pakisutan kara mairimashita

I came from Pakistan. (humble)

参る = humble 来る.

toukyou de dēta saienteisuto toshite hataraite orimasu

I work in Tokyo as a data scientist.

ております = humble ています. として = as a.

nihongo wa mada benkyouchuu desu

I'm still studying Japanese.

中 (ちゅう) = in the middle of.

totemo oishii desu. gochisousama deshita

It's delicious. Thank you for the meal.

sakiko san o taisetsu ni shimasu

I will treasure Sakiko.

大切にする = to cherish. The sentence parents want to hear. Say it once, seriously.

kongo tomo yoroshiku onegai itashimasu

I look forward to your continued kindness. (closing)

honjitsu wa arigatou gozaimashita

Thank you for today. (leaving)

本日 = formal 'today'.

What they may ask

Your work? → 会社員です / データサイエンティストです
Your family? → 両親と兄が一人います (parents and one older brother)
Been in Japan long? → 二年目です (second year)
Religion? → イスラム教です。豚肉とお酒は控えています (Muslim; I avoid pork and alcohol)
اردو

From Urdu

This is the same shift as meeting a Pakistani girlfriend's parents: آپ, تشریف, formal everything. お世話になっております ≈ آپ کی بیٹی نے ہمارا بہت خیال رکھا ہے. 大切にします is the line for خیال رکھوں گا.

ไทย

From Thai

Wai and ครับ level with Thai parents = bow and です/ます/おります here. Bringing ของฝาก is the same custom as お土産; hand it over with both hands.

Check yourself

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12 cards

Add them to spaced repetition

Cards in this lesson (12)

osewa ni natte orimasu

(she) takes good care of me / thank you for your support

tsumaranai mono desu ga

just a small thing, but… (gift)

ojama shimasu

excuse me for intruding (entering a home)

〜kara mairimashita

I came from … (humble)

〜toshite

as a …

hataraite orimasu

I work (humble)

benkyouchuu

currently studying

taisetsu ni shimasu

I will treasure (her)

kongo tomo yoroshiku onegai itashimasu

looking forward to your continued kindness

honjitsu

today (formal)

omiyage

gift brought when visiting

kazoku

family